Once I asked a girl from church why she never wanted to date me. Her response was, “You know that line in Top Gun where Kelly McGillis tells Tom Cruise that he’ll never be happy unless he’s going mach 2 with his hair on fire, and she can’t handle that?”
“Cane, that’s you.”
Which I thought was ludicrous, but I’ve since discovered that she knew better than me. As strange as that was: Before today no woman has attempted to judge my attractiveness on a scale that slides from Batman to Anakin Skywalker, as happened in this thread.* That lead to an epiphany: The link between the Manosphere, the Orthosphere, the Gamesphere, and all these other little corporations of the Internet is that most of the folks within them can get along and foster relationships because they each suffer from gruesome and potentially terminal cases of nerd-itis; male and female alike.
r u srs?
Even more bizarre: Some dudes got envious about it.
y u jelly bro?
By the nature of the conversation, and the nature of nerds, this has to sound awfully rude. I’d say about as rude as those cool-kid text-speak phrases above sound dumb, to me. I don’t mean it to be, but as we repeat: No one is a special snowflake. The cool kids accepted these things about themselves a long time ago, and then they set out to crush the bits within themselves that offended the cool. Nerds want to be celebrated for not doing so. That makes nerds profoundly stupid, and snowflakish. If you don’t want to be a nerd: Stop it. You don’t have to sell your collections, but stop showing the nerdilicious goods to the uninitiated.
My old friend–who was not a nerd in high school–strikes me as more Beta everyday. His most frequent correspondences to me are links to goofy Star Wars tee shirts, and Dungeons and Dragons-based puns…which I ignore, that my modesty might spare us both the shame. He never gets the hint, and it weighs on me because I’d really like to enjoy my friend’s jokes, but it seems cruel to laugh as he makes himself a vestigial member of his family.
“Pardon me,” Cane said, “if I don’t chortle as you sink into sexual obsolescence before your wife’s very eyes.”
In summary: It would have been a lot easier for me to have a six-month conversation about cool kids vs. nerds than alphas vs. betas. I see why people like Dalrock have not let me off the hook. He’s a smart dude. I don’t know if I’m the guy to explain this, though.
*Funny, but with some very strange twists in it.