It’s Probably Nothing

The point of my last few posts appear to be lost on more a a few people. In consideration of my readers, I will stick with the example of Jesse Stone because I both enjoy the show, and I also think that it often has a deleterious effect on women’s psyches.

First: We all must agree that violence and sex are similar in that they can both have their place, but use outside of their respective places can cause great destruction. Defense of another or an innocent is almost always good, and outside of that it is usually evil. Likewise, sex in marriage is almost always good, but sex outside of marriage is nearly universally bad. So far, so good, right?

  • If the Jesse Stone character stopped solving murders, men and women would stop watching the show. It would have no purpose.
  • If he unrepentantly murdered a man every episode, and then continued on with his day (and the show in general), we would all stop watching Jesse Stone. We would recoil from the wrongness of it.
  • If he stopped shooting the bad guys men would stop watching the show, because men watch the show to vicariously right wrongs. Men want him to continue dispensing street justice when deserved. It would be a bummer if he quit.
  • If he stopped fornicating women would stop watching the show, because the draw of the show for women is reveling in such a man. Women want to vicariously sleep with Jesse Stone. What upsets women is that he doesn’t continue fornicating long enough to get married. (Catch that?)

If you don’t get understand these principles, then you don’t understand human nature, and you’re not educated enough to make good decisions about what you or others watch. Your eye is too dark, and so everything is darkness to you.

22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. 23 But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!

A darkness so great that men come to me for advice after 20 years of marriage. That’s 20 (more) years of allowing their wives and daughters to soak up any manner of pleasure without guidance, without confrontation.  As long as it had an appropriate rating, or doesn’t use the word “fuck” in it, then it made it past their dim eyes, and their wives dim eyes. The darkness deepened. Then they show up on the doorsteps of the Men’s Sphere; heartbroken by the world, divorced form their wives, and discarded by their children; asking, “What happened? What did I do to deserve this?” The answer is, “Probably nothing.”

Jesse Stone is lawful. Downton Abbey is lawful. The NFL is lawful. All these things can be consumed for nourishment and the waste eliminated by the body.

8 Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth. And if any man think that he knoweth any thing, he knoweth nothing yet as he ought to know. But if any man love God, the same is known of him. As concerning therefore the eating of those things that are offered in sacrifice unto idols, we know that an idol is nothing in the world, and that there is none other God but one. For though there be that are called gods, whether in heaven or in earth, (as there be gods many, and lords many,) but to us there is but one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we in him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we by him.

Howbeit there is not in every man that knowledge: for some with conscience of the idol unto this hour eat it as a thing offered unto an idol; and their conscience being weak is defiled. But meat commendeth us not to God: for neither, if we eat, are we the better; neither, if we eat not, are we the worse. But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak. 10 For if any man see thee which hast knowledge sit at meat in the idol’s temple, shall not the conscience of him which is weak be emboldened to eat those things which are offered to idols; 11 and through thy knowledge shall the weak brother perish, for whom Christ died? 12 But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ. 13 Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend.

A lot of us (including myself) allowed these things in because we were told they were okay; we were told we could trust Disney, and the rating system, and network television, and adult time slots. Implicitly, too, we were told we could trust the the rack behind the counter at the convenience store to contain the lust; that we could trust the neon XXX sign to corral the smut. We were told–even while we read and heard the Bible say that all are sinful and everyone’s heart is deceitful–that Mama is a good person; that girls are pretty because they’re good, and good because they’re pretty. And the truth is that, generally, men will admit that they are sinful; actually sinful; as in right now; as in not because of what they are even doing, but for what they want to do, but aren’t. Women won’t.

11 Now Abraham and Sarah were old and well stricken in age; and it ceased to be with Sarah after the manner of women. 12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also? 13 And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old? 14 Is any thing too hard for the Lord? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son. 15 Then Sarah denied, saying, I laughed not; for she was afraid. And he said, Nay; but thou didst laugh.

Look again at 1 Corithians 8:10-13

10 For if any man see thee which hast knowledge sit at meat in the idol’s temple, shall not the conscience of him which is weak be emboldened to eat those things which are offered to idols; 11 and through thy knowledge shall the weak brother perish, for whom Christ died? 12 But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ. 13 Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend.

And then take a look at the devastation of divorces around you; divorces whose causes mirror the lust, dissatisfaction, and thrill-seeking in those shows. Why argue with me? I didn’t accuse any of you.

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9 thoughts on “It’s Probably Nothing

  1. Cane: I think I got here from Society of Phineus or Dalrock. whichever has a link to you. I’m sure I don’t get your point. We live in a society in which all have more wealth and more power of choice than can hardly be imagined. Six year olds’ can watch porn whenever they want. Islam calls us the Great Satan and an honest person can’t argue against that. Women’s value have become the pinnacle of societal morality. Fathers risk losing everything if they try to instill in the children values that mom does not agree with. Women rule. Yes, TV/movies are a consumer product, and thus market themselves to the ones who hold the purse. That would be women. Men satisfy themselves with sports, and whatever crumbs fall under the table. Do men ‘allow’ their wives and children at all? Men are powerless. Women do not need husbands, children do not need fathers. Better off with husbands and fathers? Yes! Bu not really needed. Should I be as Job or the Psalmist and ‘let not mine eye look upon any evil thing’? I know I should have moved into that cave in Wyoming. I’m not making excuses. I’m a product of my culture and only recently am I challenging that. The same Paul that wrote 1Cor. also chastised Peter for allowing for circumcision, wrote Galatians, and then took Timothy to the Temple to be circumcised. Bet that messed up some weak brothers. It is still messing up some weak brothers. Jesus healed on the Sabbath, which the Judeans thought wrong. Allowed His disciples to pick corn and eat it on the Sabbath. Actually most everything Jesus did offended the religious people, but the whores and the drunkards loved it. Should the behavior of the followers of Jesus be forever reduced to that which the weakest can tolerate? I don’t want to think so. Yep,I don’t get your point. Point me to the classroom please.

  2. @Bobbye

    Great questions! Now: Prepare yourself, and try not to get discouraged at my tone. I say that because you strike me as a female. I find they are drawn to me, but softer people have a tendency to get their emotions bruised by my style.

    Should I be as Job or the Psalmist and ‘let not mine eye look upon any evil thing’? I know I should have moved into that cave in Wyoming. I’m not making excuses. I’m a product of my culture and only recently am I challenging that.

    My initial response is: Should anyone not be like the Psalmist, or Job?

    There is a real disconnect for Christians because we ourselves have not been catechized, and we so we don’t know how to do it for others. (I say that as a fellow poor Christian.)

    You probably don’t know it, but you’re actually asking a question about the Gospel itself; the Good News that the Christ has been born, and that He died for our sins, rose on the third day, and ascended into Heaven. Before He died for our sins, He was born for them. The Word of God Almighty gave up eternity to become a little human baby. Among all the intelligent beings (God, angels, demons, and humans) there is nothing more pathetic and helpless than a human baby. And He is not only our savior, but our model. You asked:

    Should the behavior of the followers of Jesus be forever reduced to that which the weakest can tolerate?

    Do you believe in a Jesus that doesn’t?

    So, why doesn’t this mean you should dwell in a cave? Simple: Because Jesus didn’t dwell in a cave. You’re always and only responsible for the person next to you; the people you are in contact with. I know Christian charity groups want to guilt you into believing that African children–or even South Dakotan children–are your Christian responsibility. They are not. The guy in the car in the next lane over that is about to cut you off is, and we really stink at being Christ to that guy.

    Further: You can’t be Christ to anybody if you’re a hermit in a cave! If you want to be Christ to the children in Africa, you actually have to go there. If they are your responsibility, you can’t meet that by just donating a buck every month.

    The same Paul that wrote 1Cor. also chastised Peter for allowing for circumcision, wrote Galatians, and then took Timothy to the Temple to be circumcised. Bet that messed up some weak brothers.

    Paul chastised Peter (twice, I believe) for being two-faced and caving to the Jewish snobs who said everyone, everywhere, had to do things according to Jewish custom or die in sin. (Have I said you have to be like me; that you have to avoid the shows I avoid? No, and I won’t. Though I have certainly challenged you on them.) Paul had Timothy get circumcised because he’d be serving among Jews, and it would help those Jews to accept Timothy; it was not to save Timothy. (You and GKC are both trying to get me to write out how 1 Corinthians 9 fits before I’m ready.)

    Jesus healed on the Sabbath, which the Judeans thought wrong. Allowed His disciples to pick corn and eat it on the Sabbath.

    Jesus cannot profane the sabbath because He is the Word of God. He literally declared the sabbath, and made it holy. What makes a thing holy cannot profane it. In addition, those laws the pharisees accused Jesus of breaking were not laws of God, but of men. They were trying to use their own words to hold the Lord of the Sabbath hostage to Himself. A man hurt, so Jesus healed him. Men were hungry, so Jesus fed them. How is that breaking the law? In your defense: A lot of Christians have worked very hard to continue the traditions of those Pharisees and the Jerusalem Christians that tripped Peter up.

    Actually most everything Jesus did offended the religious people, but the whores and the drunkards loved it.

    Repentant drunks and whores; not all of them liked Jesus. Those were drunks and whores who wanted to be given a chance to clean up their act. The laws of the day (now codified into the Talmud) made it impossible for the “good” Jews and priest to redeem the fallen Jews–which was the very purpose of the existence of priests; to redeem. And the Jews, as a people, were the priests among the nations; to redeem the nations back to God.

  3. Sorry Cane, I’m a male. Didn’t intend to go all “Lola” with the ‘manly’ comment. I sound effeminate huh? I am an old sickly man who does sit to pee. If I ‘lean forward’ my bladder empties better. I could still piss against a wall if need be, but the wall would have to be pretty close. Bobbye is a gender neutral spelling given to my wife and I by God to ‘seal’ the “one flesh” truth in our souls. Long story there. Anyway, I, ‘grasshopper’ was trying to snatch the pebble from the master’s hand, but failed. The ministry of reconciliation? OK When Jesus returned to Nazareth, He went into His old ‘church’, read from Isaiah and then said: ” in the days of Elijah there were many widows in Israel but unto none of them was Elijah sent, but only to a widow in Sidon. And there were many lepers in Israel in the days of Elisha, but only Na’aman, a Syrian was cleansed.” And all in the ‘church’ were filled with wrath and led Jesus out to kill Him. I am trying to grasp that ‘pebble’ of wisdom but I’m torn between two voices; ” those that wait upon the LORD”, and my mother saying ” wait’s what broke the wagon down.” Is it the same message, or no?

  4. @Bobbye

    Sorry Cane, I’m a male.

    Please excuse my haste, grandfather.

    OK When Jesus returned to Nazareth, He went into His old ‘church’, read from Isaiah and then said: ” in the days of Elijah there were many widows in Israel but unto none of them was Elijah sent, but only to a widow in Sidon. And there were many lepers in Israel in the days of Elisha, but only Na’aman, a Syrian was cleansed.” And all in the ‘church’ were filled with wrath and led Jesus out to kill Him. I am trying to grasp that ‘pebble’ of wisdom but I’m torn between two voices; ” those that wait upon the LORD”, and my mother saying ” wait’s what broke the wagon down.” Is it the same message, or no?

    The Nazarenes are the widows and lepers. (I’m sure you understand that, I’m just writing it out.), yet Jesus went to Nazareth anyways. Not only did He go there (knowing that they would reject Him), before that He chose to be raised there among them. Neither did Jesus cause them to reject Him; He just stated that they had and would. He’s lamenting, and still giving them an opportunity to change their minds.

    You said above that men are powerless, and that husbands and fathers aren’t needed. I profoundly disagree. Standing up to women is (for many men) one of those things that is hard to do because it’s painful, not because it’s actually difficult; like kids resisting sweets, or stitching up a cut on someone’s legs.

    When I was younger I was that way towards women; though not to the degree of most the denizens of the Men’s Sphere. But for a long time now, I’ve found a woman’s resistance and even attacks arousing in one way or another…sometimes more than one way. They, in turn, love it. If you are dreadfully bored, you can take a look at the comment threads of this blog and see a pattern:

    1. Woman praises me.
    2. She subscribes.
    3. Some things I say make her uncomfortable.
    4. She has enough and tries to correct me.
    5. I fight back without apology and without fear of mistakes.
    6. She apologizes.
    7. I forgive and apologize to her.
    1. Woman praises me.
    2. …

    None of them have ever met me, or even talked to me. I think this is because it comes through in my writing that I genuinely like women and take them seriously. Neither am I afraid to fight with them, or worry too much if I’ve gotten something wrong. They are my sisters; not my mothers, and I am the brother.

    Other men benefit from me through those women, but I imagine for that benefit there are more than a few men that would like to kick me in the teeth. That doesn’t make me powerless; even if they were to follow through.

  5. That doesn’t make me powerless; even if they were to follow through.

    No, but the incessant whistling when you talk would really grate on me. Leaving my steel toes out of the suitcase.

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