This past weekend I was reminded that I still have not posted the basic concept which I am about to write, but which I have stated over and over since my first (guest) post in the Men’s Sphere. It also prompted me to come up with the category Economy of Respect . I’ll call it “Cane’s First Law of Female Attraction”.
Women are attracted to men who are respected by others; especially other men.
Some of you introverts may be skeptical so here’s a dead-common real-world example. The quarterback has a girlfriend because he’s the quarterback of the football team. Without the team he’s still talented, athletic, and so forth…but he’s not nearly as popular. It greatly matters that he is the leader of a team of men. But even better: Fat white lineman have girlfriends, too.
Everything else–looks, money, power, etc.–does its real work by gaining the respect of men. The women follow that. So:
- If you want to find a woman: Get friends who respect you, and be seen with them by women.
- If you want to help a man find a woman: Be a respectful friend to him, and be seen doing it.
- Single woman: Look for groups of respectable men. You will be attracted to most of them. Give an eligible one your number.
- Married woman: Encourage your husband to spend time with his friends. I bet you get jealous.