Broadly speaking, men in churches go along with a woman-oriented religious practice and worldview for one of two reasons:
- They are Momma-boys. Either their mothers were (or are) the dominate people in their lives, or their mothers were (or are) missed in their lives and they try to recapture the experience.
- They attended formal education sometime after WWII. There these men learned that the most sure and peaceful path to doing what they want was to sit still, pretend to follow the lessons, and eventually–pleased with herself–the teacher will dismiss you from class.
The men in group one actually go out and buy Pink Christian books in an attempt to please their wives. These are the men who become house-husbands and SAHDs. And they cry a lot in comparison with other men.
There are a lot more men in group two. Their wives buy them the books which are thumbed through with a bit of Hmm-ing, and then put up on shelves in displays of fealty. These are the men who pretend to be house-husbands and SAHDs, but really they just nod at their wives while looking for a binge-watch.
These bastards are tricky not only to wives but also to you. It will seem, at times, as if they understand the perversion of women-led Christianity and that’s why they merely feign obedience to her desires. Nope. They actually don’t care all that much about anything outside their job and hobbies. It is comfortable for them to pretend to follow the nonsense lessons of servant leadership, send the wives out for GNOs, and make promises choreplay before turning on the Xbox while the kids eat chicken nuggets for dinner.
The Christian section of the Men’s Sphere often doesn’t like to discuss these guys because the sort of men who find the Men’s Sphere are often the sort of men who genuinely attempted to “lead” in housework and childcare, yet went unrewarded. But they do exist, and they are part of the problem in the same way as male employees who mouth corporate harassment and discrimination policies before they go back to surfing the web.